“My Life is a mystery and knowing me is a journey”

“Minsan kinakailangang manahimik upang maintindihan, kinakailangang mawala sa kawalan upang maramdaman”

- Angel of the Acid Lake

I went to school early; I think I was only 4 yrs old. My first teacher was ma’am linda, im not that sure anymore, I can’t recall. Oh what a forgetful memory!!!.

During my pre-school, my mom will give me 5 pesos as my allowance and with this 5 pesos, I only consumed 50 centavos and the remaining, I saved it, see, with that age I was so thrifty., Our uniform was red, it was so cute, if fits me so well. My class lasted of only 2 hrs, and it was elder brother who always fetched me after school. He was so nice to me. I didn’t finish pre-school when my mom saw me bathing with my twin sister In the rain coz we didn’t have umbrella, We were full of mud..iwww…

I began my elementary days at the age of 5. Grade 1 already, i can write, draw, speak well. My teacher was Ma’am Mercy, and the worst is glanie, a classmate of mine who always asked me to give her 1 peso each day, I feel pity to her, I thought she was poor and really have no money. But she isn’t. I was a fool to believe her.. My sister found out and told my dad about it. My dad got mad of me..

From grade 1 to grade 6 I was so noisy. My teachers always punished me through writing on the whole bunch of papers these: “Im a _My name__,promise with all my heart that I will remain silent and never make any noise during the class and whenever my teacher is not around” – what a pathetic student!

Ma’am Conchita became my grade 3 teacher, she was so scaring!!! I wasn’t good in neither English nor any subject those days, so I was so afraid that she will call me to answer her questions, coz once you didn’t answer her question she will throw the eraser board to you or else, she’ll pinch or somewhat like hurt your ears. She was so harsh to students! That’s why all students were so scared to her.

Grade 4, Ma’am Eusebio, One of my hated teacher way back to my elementary days!!. Why not, instead of teaching us, she made us her maid. We took care of her daughter, and sold ice candy or any product she had..Imagine that!!!

My favorite teacher was Ma’am Necita, she was so nice to us, and she died when I was in the 6^th grade. May she rest in peace! We were so noisy, when a man entered our room, draw an egg shape on the board, from that shape, a face of a woman was formed. I was amazed. From that moment he became my hero. I have love arts. I found out that he was the new teacher of grade 6 level so when I turned grade 6^th I chose him to be my mentor. Supposedly, I was at the star section, but since, sibling Is not allowed to be together in the same section, I chose to be with Sir Casimiro DC Reyes Jr of 2^nd section.

I gave him a gift in his birthday, it was oct 21, my gift was stationary, haha, I just bought it in villafuete’s store in pinaod. I was with my cousin camille that time. I became the leader of Group 5 in all the activities we had. Cleaning the school, our room, reports on hekasi. I call still recall, me, with my group mates cleaned the garden area, the flag ceremony area, the side and back of our classroom, and inside our room, my crush teacher’s tableJ

Since I was the leader, I was responsible with all the activities, I was even a script writer, I wrote all stories we needed in the role playing for Philippine history, and all hekasi related matter. We had a project to him, I wrote and gathered all information about Rizal, but I only got a grade of 80! I was a little bitter to him, but he stills my crush.

My plant during that time was okra, we cultivated the soil, planted seeds, and it was a lot of fun. I truly enjoyed it. Every Afternoon, we watered the plants, we’re running, playing jackstone, Chinese garter, 10-20, football, and I admit, I cheated, I always got a score of 0 in my English, I will rewrite my notebook and correct all my mistake. Ha-ha I was a fool, I’m only fooling myself.

I graduated only with “Most cleanliness Award”, not bad…

To get our cards, we brought 1 sack of feritlizer. There,I found out, that My crush was getting married in May..I was so sad.

2^nd.

I entered High School, I got to know good friends, Mylene, Manilyn, peachy, Kathy, Carmi, Brian, Ago-Agustus, Artemio, Jay’r, Jovelle, Rachelle, Regie-our cute classmate, Marvin, Richard, Jo-An, Miriam- talkative girl!!!, I cannot recall all now, sorry to those I forgot. My sister was also my classmate until I graduated high school. My teachers were Ma’am Edna, who was my adviser at the sometime my Filipino Teacher, Ma’am angie, a very lovely lady, so cheerful, Sir Pascual- an almost bald old man who just let us played volleyball in gym instead of having a class in Mathematics! It was Ma’am Leonora-Nora my teacher in History, but she was so busy, can’t meet and teach us. Ma’am Mylene, Who was so morose, but so kind. She taught us planting, and weaving, she’s really good. Ma’am Sherilyn, My Teacher in Science, I really really like science so much, so I enjoyed it too. Ma’am Daisy, She became my teacher too, I forgot the subject she taught. Then, my best teacher, (all of them our good except sir pascual) Sir Luciano, I get excited just to know its PEHM subject. I really like him. PE, Music, Health, and Arts, are the bestJ

I TOP the whole Class of I-Rosal the whole grading period. I was also sent to Baliuag University to watch their Festival I think. I was with my classmate before I Forgot; I think it was Sir Philip who accompanied us there.

Oops, SIHS doesn’t have enough facilities for all enrollees, so we held our class at gym, and later on we transferred to New Site. I joined essay writing, but I didn’t win, I had fun so it was all right. I was also part of our volleyball team, we won, but we didn’t win the championship, or I think it was us won I can’t recall anymore.

My class also unfortunately burned mahogany trees around the new site, my adviser was so mad at us. I’m Sorry, It weren’t our intention.

I turned 2^nd year, new friends, some of my classmate were transferred to other section as I was transferred to star section. I met Alvin Ascano who became my bestfriend, and call each other cutiepie. We’ve been good friends until I felt jealousy, since he was getting closer to Freliza when we were 4^th yr High School student. I wasn’t so active when I turned 2^nd yr, I was adjusting, Vanessa,LizaRose, Alvin became my good friends.

I hated BIOLOGY, Asian History, Algebra, those day sucks, Actually the only subject I enjoyed were filipino and english not because it was easy but It was fun, Also, English, because our teacher was Ma’am Analiza, she was so nice to me. Filipino, my teacher was Sir Philip, a not so good teacher, actually, I didn’t learn the subject Filipino itself, since I believe Filipino is not a subject to be teach, it’s automatic that we must knew since we are all Filipino. I didn’t enjoy the subject itself too; Sir Philip gave us questions and answered by us too. I can’t recall anything I learned from him in filipino, aside from lecturing and writing essay of what we learned the end of the year , I can’t’ write too long since I didn’t actually learn. He was not good in expressing or teaching Filipino since I knew it wasn’t really his field of expertise. I understand. He belong to those teachers I don’t like, but things change from the moment he began adding spices to the subect he taught.

Days passed with the feeling of excitement, with thoughts running through my veins, “What topic he will ask us to write? Draw?” I was so excited. He caught me drawing on the back of my notebook while he was having a dicussion. i thought he will get mad at me, but he isn’t. He get my notebook and looked at my drawing, A picturesque of a lady. He appreciated it. Thank You.

HE asked us to wote a poem, the topic depends on us, I wrote something about life’s torture with a drawing representing the message I want readers to received and understand. Second, I wrote a lovestory of a princess loving the man living at the opposite side of her world. Lastly, I rewrote in the notebook Francisco Baltazar’s florante and laura and added some cartoon drawing to make it not too plain.

I received good grades from all my works, Again, Thank you.

He always underestimates his self; he didn’t know how good he is. He is far better than anyone. I believe in his intelligence, his mouth may not seem to be smart, but his action it shows.

Sir Philip had drama to us, he pretended that he was leaving the school, us, he sang his farewell song for us, IT was All My Life by America, oh, he was a good singer, we enjoyed it. We were crying, we are going to miss him, then, he told us he was just kidding. We laugh in joy, Thank you Sir Philip for not leaving us. Don’t ever do that again. Somehow you left us a mark that will never be vanished.

You may not be good in Filipino, but you are a great Filipino for you touched our hearts and taught us in a way we will always be remember. Days, weeks, months, years may pass but I can tell you, you make a big difference in Me. One thing I don’t like you was the fact you are courting students, you know it’s forbidden, a teacher must not keep an intimate desire or Love or relationship with a student. You must know your boundary and limitations. Don’t ever tell me Love conquers all, coz LOVE understand, LOVE waits, LOVE Respects.­

I made Philip, Feel Bad Today, I hurt him. I was a fool; I didn’t consider what he will feel. I’m not a good friend. I lost a friend I never wanted to lose. L

I tried to reach him, I tried to call him but he didn’t answer my call. Until now, no response, I don’t know how will I approached him, I don’t even know where to start.

Yuri is really right, I changed. I’ve been so bad, I said so many hurtful things, I get easily irritated, I lost my patience too. It’s feels like I don’t want to care to my world now, I cannot blame other people since I knew it all my fault.

Last Monday, I got so upset, and really sad, I became so sensitive. I almost cried.

My feeling is so hard to express through this, I can’t find the perfect word to describe what’s inside of me. I only have my thought. And it’s killing me hardly.

I don’t know why I became like this, why I changed, it’s so hard for me. I used to be so talkative, so cheerful, kind, nice, thoughtful, but now, I’m exactly the opposite, I never care anymore, I always forgot, I easily lose my temper, before I was a liar, now I can’t say I’m honest, coz I became too frank that I hurt the people around me.

I know it wasn’t me anymore, it was the other side of me longing to feel the outside world, taste bitterness, but I don’t like it. Yeah, I always wanted to be bad, to get mad, show my anger, express myself in the bad way, and now that it’s happening, I truly regret it. I don’t want it. I want to go back where I used to be. I miss myself so much and not other.

Maybe it was the thought of nan yang, coz I still hold on to his memory and I never let him go, I still can’t get over him.

I want to start of something new, live my life , free myself from all the hatred, madness, and fears I had. I don’t want o hurt all people around me. I want to be born again.

I want to smile, laugh, feel the air, see what’s hidden, go beyond world unseen. But I don’t know how to start. I got lost in my world.

I am Shailany vizconde, from now on, smile, spread cheers, laugh, cheerful, thoughtful, patient, diligent, and will never ever hurt all the people beside me. I will enjoy my life to the fullest, bring back Philip trust to me, free myself to nan yang’s memory. I will stop blaming myself for hurting Nan,niether Yuri.

I mean every words I said to him and t o my little note. I’m done being a bitch,ang holding my huge fork!

I want to wear my halo again.

I always cry whenever I thought of childhood came across my mind. I can’t recall anything beyond 4 yrs old I think.

I can only remember I had 5 pesos, I didn’t spend it, I’d saved it and kept until I lost it, Poor child! I got injured since I was a very clumsy child. It can be seen at my knees, I got scars! I had a twin sister, she’s prettier than I. We are always compared, and I always got lost. I feel like I never loved. Is always like this. When my sister and I fought, I’m always the sinner, it was always my fault, and they blamed it all to me. But the truth I didn’t do anything. I got so mad with them, when my mom slapped me, she didn’t believe me again, she was on my brother side. It has never been. Am I not their daughter??? When will be my turn??? I had so many bitterness in my family, despite of that, I never forget my study, I worked hard to get good grades hoping that they will notice. But it didn’t happen. I got awards when I graduated at high school but they still don’t notice me. I was at the other side crying and feeling a loser. I didn’t get what I really wanted.

I was upset­­ today, yuri told me that I was boastful and really irritating, I was hurt and too bothered so I asked my close friends such as tres, earnest, kuya sixto as well as ahwin and they all agreed that I was nice and just keep my good attitude. It was opposite to what yuri said about me. Somehow I feel better and relieved knowing that those people knew me and have a positive feedback about me. SO what I did, I emailed yuri and told him it was wrong. I wasn’t as what he thought. I told him he never do anything good for me, he only made me cried. And told him, “I hate you”.. he wondered why? He said he just answered my question. And that what he thinks about me. I just ignored his answered. I off my msn messenger. I put on my ym and msn status msg “yung isang tao jan, YURI ang pangalan, kung mkapanghugas grabeh hindi nmn nia kilala ung tao, mas masahol pa xa sa masama.” He responded and chat me to my ym, saying my word ’masama’was too much. I said, that’s the perfect word to describe you, just fits well.

My cousin saw my stat msg on ym, and asked me who is my enemy, and why I said that. I said someone called my boastful and really irritating, he laughed, he said, that person who told that to me was just insecure maybe because I am better than him or much intelligent. He was right. So what I did, I replied to yuri, and told him that he’s said that I’m boastful coz envy me, since I was so intelligent, nice, friendly, thoughtful, diligent, yet I wasn’t good at trigonometry, despite of that I am really good in reasoning, I always have answers to all questions. Only, I am so clumsy, and thanks god I have my wenjie to take care of me, coz demon also dies.

I also told him that” you are right of what you said to me, i was a fool not to realize that early, I know you mean it. Thank you, you never tell the truth, you are a liar, so what you mean by that is that I am so down to earth and really kind”. Thank you so much for making me realize all these”

He replied and told me I was wrong. I said, well, fine. Haha. I told him that Philippines are so lucky to have me since I was so intelligent! He said yeah Philippines is really lucky. He also said, that he will continue to irritates me,na mainis lang daw ako sa kanya pra lalo ko daw xa isipin, so I told him that, there are already 2 person queue in my head, one the first who whom is mad at me right now, I don’t want to take suicide since I still have queued 2, wenjie, I can’t live him. So there is no vacant and cant queue anymore.

He also thought wenjie left me, and broke my heart; he was a fool to think wenji was my boyfriend coz he is not. I answered him,” I told him “no, wenjie and I never fight, we understand each other truly, actually, wenjie will go with me in clsu for my sister’s graduation day next week, why don’t you go with us, I’ll introduce you to him, since wenjie knows you well”. He said, “he I cant go, sorry, congrats nlang”, I said,” it’s alright, there’s still next time, I really wanted to introduce you to wenjie, since you are one of a kind”. He said, “yes, of course a person like me comes only once in a blue moon”, in response I told him, “ yes you are, I hope there would be no full moon comes, I’m afraid that there would be so many guy like you, pity for Philippines!

He just laugh, and send me a smiley and flower for peace offering, I told him,” I cant, I really enjoy having an enemy like you, you made me so happy today”.

He doesn’t reply anymore. On the other hand, I was playing a dirty game for him, I had other 2 facebook account, one is Daniel and other one is Maggie, I added him in my both account without having any idea that it was me. At first I chat him as daniel, it was morning, as soon as I arrived at the office. I asked him, where is Philippines, does it snow there, and lot more. Haha. It was fun.

And then, I switched to me other account, maggie-a beautiful american lady, yuri sent an email, saying my maggie is so beautiful, what a jerk he is. He asked if it’s maggie’s real pic and from where I am, replied as maggie and said “why are you asking such questions?, yes it’s my picture, I am from fort myers florida, USA, what about you?”, he said, sorry, it’s just maggie was so beautiful, he said things about him, and ended with the”your boyfriend is so lucky to have you”, I replied and said, “ boys are stupid, once they get the girl they changed. I said it’s cold here, are there many cute in philippines?., he said, yes there are many cute guys in Philippines.

He then asked where my loved ones are, I said, I have my family loving me spontaneously, and my friends, co-workers and my special friends. Etc.

I told him I will sleep. Since it’s midnight here already and I still have to wake up early.

While Im my way home, I went to mc donalds and have my dinner alone, when a thought crossed my mind. “4 years of me and yuri as classmate, and also we lived in the same house, yet all those years and just pretend he likes me- 4 na taon ko xa naging classmate at nksama pa tumira sa iisang bhay nung ojt kmi with our classmates, niloloko lang nia ako, pinaplastic nia lang ako, he broke my heart few months, now he just told me that for him I was boastful and really irritating, pinaglaruan lang nia ako, I can’t recall anything good he does for me, he only made me cried, made me feel bad, today is the worst. Hindi ko xa mapapatawad kahit kailan”, how could he do that to me. He is so bad. 2 timer na nga xa 4 na taon pa nia ako niloloko. Hndi ko na xa kakausapin kahit kailan, I truly regret knowing him. From this day, I don’t know any yuri, memory erased. ERASED ERASED ERASED ERASED ERASED ERASED ERASED ERASED.

Shift + delete.

I ‘ll do everything,no matter how long it will takes, just for philip to fogive me. I’ll bring back our friendhip!!! AJA AJA AJA AJA AJA AJA AJA

I asked for kuya j’s help regarding my sin to Philip, he told me “you should not only what to say & but also what not to say”

Its past so you keep nlng sna. Tel dat u’r sorry & ask for his forgiveness”, I watched “In My Life”, I was inspired and realizes my mistakes. So I send Philip a msg saying these:

Name:

Number: 09155702618

Content:

Im sory, i mean it, sori tlg, hindi m kc ako tinuruan n i shud lern not only wat 2 say but also wat not 2 say, wla din nagturo skin, hindi ko din kc natisod un or napulot nung nagla2kad aq. i was wrong, d lht n22nan sa sch, basic lang, i have to explore, but i exceeded. im sori.

sori kc lagi akong inaantok kpg GMRC, ethics at values nung nagaaral ako, kya tuloy wla akong good manners.

i learned my mistake, i will not commit same mistake, my nagsbi skn mayabng aq at nakakainis, i got worried, kc bka lahat ng tao kilala q ganun din tingin skin, but i was wrong,isa lang xa sa marmi na d ako kilala.

like now, i dont know u enap 2 say what i'd said.patawarin mo ako, d ko ninanais na makapanakit, i thought saying what's on my mind will help, i am indeed wrong im really sorry, u may not forgive me tody, but i will wait, until ur madness and the pain i cause subsides.

- sandie

ps.

sori, lagi kc ako nagddrwing dati kpg nagdidscuss ka, kya wla aq maisulat sa essay m, thnks 4 appreciating it, instead na patayuin mo aq sa sulok ng classroom. Salamat sa pagigigng kaibigan, paumanhin sa pagiging masama q. if somday our path meets, batukan mo aq ha, sbhn mo skin npkasama q. ok lang, d kita ggnthan. Ingat ka Ginoo.

Time: 28/11/2009 23:00:38

Right after that, I send kuya jay my response to his txt msg here it goes:

Kuya J, nagapologize na ako, and I really mean it, If all people will forget their past, they can’t go on db, remember, u can never be who you are now without ur past. I have no regrets kya I will be gladly to lookback bka kc my mamis ako. Ok!Thanks!. I’ll wait until he forgives me n d pain I caused subsides.

Ps. I cried several times watching “In my life” – it is very heart whelming!
I am so crazy with this song now!

Girl & Guy

LoveTest Questionnaire Analysis:

You won't see eachother again!

Numerology Analysis:

Girl is 23 percent compatible with the guy
 Guy is 54 percent compatible with the girl

These percentages are based on the names which you entered at the beginning of the LoveTest. To get the most accurate results, you should always provide the first, middle and last name. You can also take the LoveThermometer for a more indepth analysis of various aspects of your relationship.

Personality Analysis

Your personality, Girl:

You are a complex lady. You are ruled by the planet Venus that makes you knowledgeable instinctively in the art of seduction. You love beautiful objects and adornments and will welcome any quality gifts that your lover buys for you. You always know exactly what you want and you will become quite stubborn if you don't get it. As long as your man stays on your good side and treats you with tender loving care you will be affectionate and willing to give him whatever he wants. You are eager to learn about life and the man that can teach you the ins and outs will win your heart. You look for a lover who is sincere, appreciative and knowledgeable about getting the best quality for the best price. If your chosen partner lives up to your standards you will be a loyal, loving and excellent bed mate.

Your lover must approach you properly in order to win your heart. You love good cooking and fine wine. The way to your heart is definitely through your stomach. You are turned off by individuals who exaggerate or color the truth. You like to be admired and will respond if your lover is encouraging.
 

Guy's personality

You are extremely attractive to women. You are easily noticed in a crowd and you usually get a lot of attention. You are a showman, flashy and flamboyant. You can be careless at times, however you are also a master at covering up mistakes or anything else. You love and admire beautiful women, but your mate must not outshine you in any manner. You prefer your female to be reserved so as not to steal your thunder. You are an extrovert, you love to laugh, you are generous, outgoing and you love the best of everything. You have a high opinion of yourself and you want your mate to feed your ego.

When looking for a prospective mate you will interact diversely with all the other constellations including your own.

Astrological Compatibility Analysis

Taurus and Leo When Taurus and Leo come together in a love affair, they can be a great couple because they know how to stroke one another's egos and love to have their own stroked! They have similar needs: Taurus needs plenty of affection, to be loved and cherished, while Leo likes compliments and wants to be adored and admired. They're both extremely loyal and possessive lovers. Since they have such similar desires, they can generally provide for one another's needs quite well. These two Signs both love status and possessions. They prize physical comfort and luxury; Leo is often flamboyant about attentions and gift-giving, which will greatly please Taurus, who loves the most traditional forms of courtship. Though they can work together quite well, it's not all roses between these two; both Signs are very stubborn and must work hard to understand and accept one another. Taurus is ruled by the Planet Venus (Love and Money) and Leo is ruled by the Sun (Self). The Sun radiates warmth and light; Leo indeed radiates this kind of energy and enthusiasm. Venus is about love, beauty and luxury. This combination of masculine and feminine energy helps these two Signs admire and sustain one another. As a matter of fact, Venus is never more than 48 degrees from the Sun, so they belong close together! The Sun represents life and Venus represents love; as long as they are careful to understand each other, their combination is a positive one.

[edit] Warnings

• Girls/guys might be playing games with you. Some enjoy making a guy love them, so that they can break up with them. Be aware of this. Listen with your ears, and not your heart, and be patient for your true love.
• If you sense that she is not being truthful, then accept your feelings. Get out and meet someone else. But don't "just" do it. What if you're wrong? Be sure.

So you've been dumped

Apr 14, 2009 by FN's Cheekie Albay

You’re not alone. Legions of people the world over have gone through the same thing and they know exactly what you’re feeling. They’re willing to help you get through your ordeal—even if they can only do so online.

On soyouvebeendumped.com, you get to communicate with fellow dumpees who have it just as hard as you do or have gone through bad splits and have learned to move on. The site was launched by Scotland-based American Thea Newcomb in July 4, 2000 after three bad splits scarred her. Now, it is the longest-running, most established site dedicated to offering support and advice to those who have gotten the boot in the relationship department.

The forum, called Ex-change, is undoubtedly the heart and soul of soyouvebeendumped.com. Here, you will find men and women from all over the world who are ready to help you through your bad breakup blues 24/7.

If you need concrete tips on dealing with your breakup, the site also contains articles that offer advice on weeding out a cheater, surviving a breakup, and ultimately moving on.

Be sure to check out Break-up lines to see how other dumpees have gotten the kiss of death. You just might find something that sounds eerily similar to your ex’s words when he broke it off.

Soyouvebeendumped.com averages more than a million hits a month—which just goes to show how many people get their hearts broken on any given day. In the event of a breakup, you’ve got a lot of shoulders to cry on.

Originally posted by :
Jan 25, 2007 by Sara Elias

Photo by: Pat Dy Makeup by: Barbi Chan Hair by: Felicity Son Styled by: Guada Reyes

We’re settling the score on unrequited love. It does not have to be so desperate.

The Nature of the Dilemma
It happens all the time. The quintessential drama that young, and perhaps not so young, women find themselves in. They encounter a man and they fall in love. For some it may happen instantly…for others, it may take weeks, even months to develop. But the final result is precisely that: she is in love, he isn’t—not with her, anyway.

Yes, it feels dire, desperate, and hopeless…particularly in this staunchly conservative culture where women are expected to wait till they are chosen, wooed, and courted. Sadly, a woman in love has no choice but to hide her heart and pine away, it seems. Or does she?

Or can she do something about it, and more importantly, have a hope of success?

Reason vs. Emotion
If you are, in fact, in love or simply in “crush” (it really doesn’t matter which), make sure that your reasons are, well…reasonable. It can’t be just because he’s a Ricky Martin look-alike or because he has great abs and pecs. The assumption is that you know your target well enough to believe that you and he will get along. You and he like the same things or his sense of humor is exactly like yours or he values his family in just the same way that you do. This is being rational, rather than emotional. Being rational will serve you well in your pursuit of his love.

Have good reasons for the state of your heart and you will achieve success.

A Matter of Male Cluelessness
It’s a matter of perspective. One way to look at it is this: It’s not so much that you are in love with someone who does not love you. It’s that someone does not as yet know that you are there for him to love.

Men can be sort of clueless about affairs of the heart and matters of compatibility. Like many species in the animal kingdom, they go for shiny objects, things that are brightly colored and move around a lot. They will incline themselves toward the objectively pretty, obviously attractive women. Many don’t even give a thought initially to personality—letting the physical attraction lead the way, often to dismal ends.

Look at it this way: All you’re doing is giving him a clue or two to solving the mystery of you.

All’s Fair in Love
The reason why many girls fail to get their guy to like them is they count on it too much. You might say like Renee Zellwegger said in the film, Jerry Maguire: “But I love him!” Truth is, you don’t. You are in severe “crush”—you do not know yet if you love him. You just think that you might be able to. An entirely different thing, trust me.

The mindset you should have? That all is fair in the game of love. In short: Don’t put all your emotional eggs in one man’s basket. The only way you stand a chance at winning him is if you will be able to stand it in case you lose him. This is not about your heart’s lifelong happiness. All this is is a sporting effort at making a guy see how wonderful you are.

Throw out the notion that this is the one and only man for you. Yes, this could be the one…or he could be just the one of many. On the offchance that he isn’t, there will be others. This has to be your frame of heart and mind before you embark on this quest.

There are no guarantees but there’s also no law against trying to win the affections of a seemingly indifferent man. What’s more, not a few women have succeeded and reaped rewards.

A Word of Warning
There are men out there who are especially suspicious of women who “like them first.” (They may even be reading this article). Some are even jerky enough to disdain the women and look down on them—a mark of insecurity, if ever there was one (“If I don’t need to make her like me, there must be something wrong with her.”). They want someone who is elusive. They yearn for the thrill of the chase. They don’t want a “sure thing.” Not all of them are like that: a few are painfully shy, nerdy, or torpe …but goodness knows, there are enough out there of the other kind. Which makes your safest course of action playing it cool. Yes, your heart may be skipping fiery beats…but as you go through the guidelines below, remember that all that’s going on in your heart and mind should never be apparent in any way, shape, or form to the outside world.

Bottomline: You like him. Give him the option of liking you back.

Here’s How: The Get-Him-to-Like-You Manual
1. Stay in his line of vision. Gina, 30, now married to her guy, told us what she did to “make him realize I was the one.” “I knew there were prettier girls than me—that wasn’t the issue. Kung saan siya, nandun ako—kunwari, pinakamaganda ako. At the same time, I also acted oblivious as though he wasn’t even there.” Gina’s point being, he can’t discover how wonderful you are unless he sees you. So be seen.

2. Let him see the nurturing you. We are the fairer sex because we are nurturing. It goes back to the fact that biologically, we can be mothers. Remember: all men first fell in love with their mothers. Very important: nurture like a mother, never act like one. Says Russell Wild, author of Why Men Marry (Contemporary, 1999), “Men consistently list nurturing as one of the prime qualities they look for in a partner.” Any man loves it when a woman pampers him, whether it’s by fixing him dinner or fixing his hair.”

Does this mean you should nurture him? Definitely not. Simply show that you are nurturing by being caring towards everyone—your friends, your family, him included.

Says Lulu who won the heart of her college crush: “When it was raining, I was genuinely concerned about whether he had an umbrella or not to go to class in another building. You know naman how guys are. So I lent him mine. If I had baon and I was eating in our org, I’d ask him and his group if they had eaten yet.” Naturally, it’s got to be sincere. Fake nurturing is nothing but fake and will not get you anywhere.

3. Show your assets. You have a talent. A clear strength. You’re a great dancer. Or you’re a good communicator. You might be an athlete. Find that and don’t make it a secret. Nothing turns a guy on more than a girl who’s good at what she does: whatever it is. Jam, 28, shares how she won the heart of her crush when their office had caroling. “It was a lot of fun because I love singing…and modesty aside, I’m rather good. After a while, I knew that he was listening to me. After a week, he told me I sang like an angel. Four weeks later, we were dating, and he was calling me his angel.”

4. Act and be beautiful—for the world at large. As world renown makeup artist and head of her own cosmetics company, Bobbi Brown says: Confidence is the great beautifier. So do all you can to be beautiful…then act as though you are. Says Trina, 30, “You may not be the most beautiful girl in the world, but who says you can’t act like it? When you consciously radiate beauty, it soon becomes unconscious. Think of it as casting a net for the world and if he chooses to fall for the bait, then great.”

Mara, 23, agrees with this. The best part, she says, is when guys other than your guy start venturing near you—then he sees it and thinks, wait a minute, who’s this? “Parang, wow, it’s so powerful to be a girl.”

5. Act completely unaware of his existence. A follow-up on #1, just because it’s so key. Like Gina, you must be oblivious. You don’t see him. You don’t know he’s watching. And as you go about your business, whether it’s work or play, give your best. Remember…oblivious, elusive, mysterious. Ninety-nine percent of the time, act like he does not even exist…then every now and then, flash him a “look-at-me” look…a mixture of surprise and pleasure that he is there after all.

6. Always have a lot of carefree fun—and look it. Men are scared off by women who are out for a serious committed relationship with the promise of a wedding ring after two years. Besides, girls, all you want is for him to fall for you: You don’t really know if you want the whole banana. Take it one step at a time. You are out to show him how much fun it is to be with you. Says Josey Vogels, author of Dating: A Survival Guide from the Frontlines (Adams Media, 1999), “The more fun and carefree you are, the more likely you are to be noticed by men with that same mindset.”

7. Be feminine but be a friend. Keep within the lines of being friendly like a pal but still being feminine like a woman.

Mona, 32, a freelance writer, fell for her client and at first, she was painfully conscious of it. Her prim-and-proper, Catholic school girl mode kicked in. “I was suplada, professional, and totally uninterested. I remember after our first meeting, he offered to carry my stuff to my car and I hurriedly said, no thanks—I can do it.” No surprise, the guy treated her like a freelance writer.

“When he called me to do a second project, I changed my tactics. I was friendlier…and I was feminine with just the lightest touch. After we wrapped up that project, he asked me out.”

8. There are other guys in the picture. Even if there are no other guys in the picture, you should be a busy woman with people to see and places to go. He doesn’t have to now that you’re nights out with Carlo are mainly food trips to his boyfriend’s restaurant. Remember, guys cannot help but want someone who is wanted, who has stuff going on. If all you are doing is hanging around him…well, that’s not going to get you anywhere.

9. Stake out common interests. Treat him like a real person and not the man of your dreams. In other words, use every conversation to get to know him better, the way you get to know any other friend. You find out you both like the same music: ask to borrow his latest CD. You find out he watches tennis the way you do: offer him your taped video of the last Wimbledon match. If he reads the way you do, bring in your copy of the latest Stephen King and wave it in his face. He’ll ask to borrow it, you’ll tell him: “Not till I’m done with it.” Afterwards, talk about it over a cup of coffee the way you would any other friend.

10. Don’t forget your passion and never neglect your life. Do not drop your life. This is a goal you have set for yourself much like deciding to eat healthier or deciding to revamp your career. Other aspects of your life should not fall to the wayside. You are you because of all these things. He will not want you if you drop your life for him.

The Bonus Tip: As Ally McBeal says, it’s really all about attitude. In everything you do, act like you are loveable and you will be. And should this guy fail to notice…toss your head and look elsewhere. Some other guy just might.

This is originally posted by  FN's Trixie Reyna in Feb 15, 2009 ..i just stole it..hehe

Don’t play games and know when you’re being played.

Remember the Golden Rule? It applies to dates, too. If you want people to treat you a certain way, then do the same for them. “Call when you say you’re going to call. Do what you say you’re going to do, and be honest when the other person asks if you’d like to go out again. If you don’t want to see them again, say so in a kind and considerate way. By being honest and letting them down easy, you avoid playing games,” says the eHarmony staff. Does he play games? Then it’s time to stop playing along. A lot of people get hurt because they saw all the warning signs, knew they were being played, and still went along and tolerated everything until it blew up in their faces.

Will you be able to accept if your date doesn’t say ‘I love you’ back, or will you be crushed?

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience.

Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share.

And just as life is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share.

More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away.

When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again.

They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and to accept it.
You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead becomes someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away..

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it choose to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

If you keep your heart open, it will come again.